Since the publication
of my books, Addiction to Love and The Art of Changing,
many people have asked me for my advice. I am happy to say that
I have finally decided to hang out my shingle and make my services
available. Please understand that I am not a licensed therapist.
I am a licensed teacher—with 30 years of experience helping
people understand the nature and origin of their problems and how
they can find the path to a better life. My specialty is working
with love addicts.
I do most of my work
over the phone, email and Skype. It will be your choice. This session
is about you and what you need. Try to keep your spirits up until
we start our work.
most cases, only a few sessions are needed to get you started. I
will then offer you referrals to other support services if necessary.
Whether we work together or this turns out to be a consultation
will be up to you. Once again, this is about your needs and your
pain and your brighter tomorrow.
Please do not send
me a long history of your situation as I prefer to hear your story
for myself. Thanks.
My standard fee
is $100/hour, but I do sliding scale and you can pay what you can
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If you can't
afford my services please see
the message board I created for Love Addicts Anonymous.
Board for Love Addicts
In 2014 I began working as a concierge teacher. I have been to Switzerland
and my last client flew in from Germany. If you want to schedule
this three-day workshop I can come to you or you can come to me.
Each day we spend four hours together in a hotel room (10-12 am
& 1-4 pm). Usually three days will be enough time to really
get you started in recovery. You might call it a mini-treatment
center with only you as a client. Contact me for more information.
I have letters of recommendation below.
Jonathan: "Thank you very much for your time. The last days
had more effect on me than 2 years of therapy. We will continue
. . . " .
From my client in Switzerland
. . .
am a 46 year old male. In 2012, I was at a point in my life where
I finally separated from my 11-year-old relationship with an abusive
partner. Then, immediately, I jumped into a new relationship. She
was beautiful and fueled my interest to the maximum, up to a point
where I could not focus on anything else. I was obsessed.
that I had found my true love, instead I found myself entering again
into a relationship with another abusive person, this time someone
with narcissistic tendencies. Soon I was in despair, I did not understand
what was happening to me, despite my 6 year journey to find myself
at retreats and seminars.
In 2013, I was handed a book written by Susan
Peabody, and I decided to write to her. It was the best decision
of my life.
Susan and I started our introduction through
email to understand if there was a solid program to help me out
of this situation. After a couple of professional emails, it was
clear that Susan could help me.
Since we lived on different
continents we decided that the best approach was to have Susan fly
in to begin her one-on-one sessions, where the speed of learning
and Susan's interpersonal skills and wisdom could help me immdeiately
without delay. This was the right approach for me.
The sessions were strong
and confrontational and helped me to really understand my patterns
in relating to women and why time after time I fell for the same
type of abusive woman. Of course, it was difficult to look in the
mirror and be confronted with my own destructive patterns, and behaviors,
but I did it. I looked at all that had happended in an adult way.
They are no blocks anymore for my further development.
Today, I have a
solid insight into my upbringing, the scars and neglect, and my
coping mechanisms. It is clear how I fell into the trap of love
addiction. In the final session, Susan and I worked on my Imago,
the unconscious ideal partner, which was born out of my dysfunctional
family upbringing. We followed up by constructing the image of the
healthy partner for me. Susan was instrumental in all this and she
kept me away from falling into the traps of love addiction.
Since my time with Susan,
I feel whole, I am content with myself and have met a wonderful
woman, whom I will marry and have a family with. My patterns of
abuse are gone, and I am now what Susan calls, "relationship
I want to recommend Susan
to any person who is motivated to look deep into the mirror. If
you can afford it, please sign up for her training sessions, which
helped me more than my six years in therapy.
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Difference Between Psychotherapy
and What I Offer
done with a licensed therapist. It can be defined in different ways.
Click here for a detailed list of definitions.
My background is
in teaching. I am a licensed teacher in the state of California.
My counseling takes my teaching to a personal level. It is to the
point and advice-driven. I have studied psychotherapy enough to
know when I should not be working with someone, so if I do engage
with a client I may confront him or her directly rather than tiptoe
around the problem. Think Dr. Phil.
My speciality is
teaching people how to help themselves. I have been doing this for
30 years since I discovered I was a love addict. Once I get you
started, it is up to you to avail yourself of other resources and
There is always a brighter tomorrow. Trust me. I am a recovering
love addict. I have been there. I know what the pain is like and
what it takes to recover. It takes time and we must be patient.
But we cannot do this alone. As they say in CoDA. We need God and
we need each other. God bless you all.
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