the publication of my books, Addiction to Love and The
Art of Changing, many people have asked me for my advice. I
am happy to say that I have finally decided to hang out my shingle
and make my services available. Please understand that I am not
a licensed therapist. I am a licensed teacher—with 30 years
of experience helping people understand the nature and origin of
their problems and how they can find the path to a better life.
My speciality is working with love addicts, but I also help sex
addicts as the treatment is much the same.
do most of my work over the phone, but if you live in the San Francisco
Bay Area we can meet in my home which for now is my office. Call
me for an appointment. (I will call you back if you don't have
unlimited long distance.) E-mail correspondence is also an option
if you live overseas. However, I do not go into chat rooms and for
now I do not have skype.
most cases, only one session is needed to get you started. I will
offer you referrals to less expensive support at the end of our
fee is $100 (50 minutes)
is due in advance of the session.
about sliding scale.
you pay, you may call me right away for an immediate
session or to schedule or an appointment.
If I don't answer the phone, leave me your number and the times
I can call you back. Speak slowly when you leave your phone number.
not tell me your story in a long, preliminary email unless you are
paying for an e-mail session. I prefer to hear all of your information
during the session. Please be near
a computer when you call or at least have paper and pen. Do not
call me for a session if you are driving.
the consultation . . .
will listen to your personal history.
will help your prioritize your problems.
we will determine what kind of love addict you are (if any).
will help you understand why you are the way you are.
will highlight the thinking patterns and behavior that must be
will recommend and outline a program of growth and change designed
especially for you.
may be, if you are up to it, some homework assignments.
you need to go to a Recovery Center I will give you a written
referral. I recommend 5 Sisters Ranch.
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Difference Between Psychotherapy
and What I Offer
is done with a licensed therapist. It can be defined in different
ways. Click here for a detailed list of definitions.
background is in teaching. I am a licensed teacher in the state
of California. My counseling takes my teaching to a personal level.
It is to the point and advice-driven. I have studied psychotherapy
enough to know when I should not be working with someone, so if
I do engage with a client I may confront him or her directly rather
than tiptoe around the problem. Think Dr. Phil.
speciality is teaching people how to help themselves. I have been
doing this for 30 years since I discovered I was a love addict.
Once I get you started, it is up to you to avail yourself of other
resources and move forward. Sometimes, I continue working with clients
as a life coach, and if you interested
we can discuss this during the consultation.
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