is a wonderful, inspiring, caring counselor. I can recommend her
100%. There are few people in the world who have such a knowledge
around love addiction, love avoidance, and recovery from that. She
replies very quickly and has always her finger right on the point.
She can easily, and intuitively, analyze your relationship situation
and tell you right what to do. She is blunt about this, and this
is exactly what you need when you have lost control in toxic entanglements.
Christian Hemschemeier, Psychiatrist
you are a pioneer. You have shaped the profession's response to
love addiction. Your way of helping is a model for the future that
is going to lead to more people getting loving support. I really
admire your persistent and patient counseling. You have helped me
a great deal.
is so funny. I was so intimated about contacting you, but felt an
overpowering need to personally thanking you for reassuring me that
I had not completely lost.
I discovered you were now offeringmd counseling, you didn't have
to ask me twice!!! The only works I found that was on 'par' with
yours were offered by authors Dorothy Tennov and Pia Mellody. Dorothy's
work regarding limerences was fascinating, but very depressing as
she claimed constantly it is tough if not impossible to treat--promising
years of pain. If months experiencing these bizarre feelings was
tearing up both my heart and pocketbook, Dr. Tennov's message of
hopelessness and suggestions to 'deal with it' were not options
Mellody's work was also very intriguing, but became complicated
as she switched back and forth between love addiction and avoidance
addiction. . . at one point I was simultaneously both and neither!
Once I read your books, I immediately found your work to be down
to earth (free of annoying psycho babble), clear, concise, relevant,
and full of hope. It was so powerful to turn the pages of your books
and related and understand me immediately. Then you offeredd me
a way out.
knew I had found my "answer" when you told me it was a
symptom of love addiction to smother your partner. I knew in my
heart you understood me at my worst! It was as if you had jumped
out from the pages of a book and "nailed" me right there.
I read your second book [The Art of Changing] as my addiction
had escalated past the point of making no sense to me. It became
my "bible" of hope as my therapist and I poured through
the concepts of change you presented seeking how I might recover.
Thank you again! It has been my pleasure and miracle meeting you!
I hope my partner enjoyed my strange and continuous love. . . as
it is coming to an end very very soon. Time's up buddy as I'm moving
asked me to share a little of my story. I am involved in a triangle
with a girl 27 years younger than me who lives in Colombia South
America. What started out as a fling has lasted 4 years and is starting
to take a toll on me in the form of an obsession or addiction. It
wasn't good. I believe in a universal being. I grew up Catholic
and went envangelico for a while but discovered that we all have
our own connection to God.
I firmly believe it was God that led me to Susan and her book and
my eventually booking some time with her. During that first session
it was like I was hit over the head with a bat. It was so clear
and so subliminal. What was said was transmitted between Susan's
spirit and mine. Believe me I got the word.
I am in the process of following Susan's recommendation of writing
an email to cut off my affair. I wrote it and am working on the
courage to send it. I am a bit of chicken and I am fighting with
my inner child!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Susan taught me about this.
If I sound overwhelmed with Susan please excuse me. I don't want
to make her a cult figure but she really did help me immensely.
I know it's about common sense but some people are more gifted than
others. I think this is Susan's case.
I count on your prayers and support and I already accept my recovery.
Thanks for reading this.
you very much for your time. The last days had more effect on me
than 2 years of therapy. We will continue . . .
am a 46 year old male. In 2012, I was at a point in my life where
I finally separated from my 11-year-old relationship with an abusive
partner. Then, immediately, I jumped into a new relationship. She
was beautiful and fueled my interest to the maximum, up to a point
where I could not focus on anything else. I was obsessed.
that I had found my true love, instead I found myself entering again
into a relationship with another abusive person, this time someone
with narcissistic tendencies. Soon I was in despair, I did not understand
what was happening to me, despite my 6 year journey to find myself
at retreats and seminars.
2013, I was handed a book written by Susan Peabody, and I decided
to write to her. It was the best decision of my life.
and I started our introduction through email to understand if there
was a solid program to help me out of this situation. After a couple
of professional emails, it was clear that Susan could help me.
we lived on different continents we decided that the best approach
was to have Susan fly in to begin her one-on-one sessions, where
the speed of learning and Susan's interpersonal skills and wisdom
could help me immdeiately without delay. This was the right approach
sessions were strong and confrontational and helped me to really
understand my patterns in relating to women and why time after time
I fell for the same type of abusive woman. Of course, it was difficult
to look in the mirror and be confronted with my own destructive
patterns, and behaviors, but I did it. I looked at all that had
happended in an adult way. They are no blocks anymore for my further
I have a solid insight into my upbringing, the scars and neglect,
and my coping mechanisms. It is clear how I fell into the trap of
love addiction. In the final session, Susan and I worked on my Imago,
the unconscious ideal partner, which was born out of my dysfunctional
family upbringing. We followed up by constructing the image of the
healthy partner for me. Susan was instrumental in all this and she
kept me away from falling into the traps of love addiction.
my time with Susan, I feel whole, I am content with myself and have
met a wonderful woman, whom I will marry and have a family with.
My patterns of abuse are gone, and I am now what Susan calls, "relationship
want to recommend Susan to any person who is motivated to look deep
into the mirror. If you can afford it, please sign up for her counseling
sessions, which helped me more than my six years in therapy. I also
want to recommend her books. They
hold so much information that I believe saved my life.
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