is so funny...I was SO intimated about contacting you, but felt
an overpowering need to first personally thank you for reassuring
me I had not completely lost it and offering me a way out.
I discovered you were now offering life coaching. . . you didn't
have to ask me twice!!! The only works I found that was on 'par'
with yours were offered by authors Dorothy Tennov and Pia Mellody.
Dorothy's work regarding limerences was fascinating, but very depressing
as she claimed constantly it is tough if not impossible to treat-
promising years of pain. If months experiencing these bizarre feelings
was tearing up both my heart and pocketbook, Dr. Tennov's message
of hopelessness and suggestions to 'deal with it' were not options
Mellody's work was also very intriguing, but became complicated
as she switched back and forth between love addiction and avoidance
addiction. . . at one point I was simultaneously both and neither!
Once I read your books, I immediately found your work to be down
to earth (free of annoying psycho babble), clear, concise, relevant,
and full of hope. It was so powerful to turn the pages of your books
and related and understand ME immediately. This personal identification
with your work and examples were so powerful.
knew I had found my "answer" when I came to the symptom
of "smothering" one's POA (Love Addicts Anonymous term
for person of addiction.) I knew in my heart you understood me at
my worst! It was as if you had jumped out from the pages I was reading
and "nailed" me right there. I immediately saw myself
as a dump truck driver backing up and letting go of my load covering
my fantasy love who had no earthly clue I had an intimate feeling
at all for him!
I read your second book [The Art of Changing] as my addiction
had escalated past the point of making no sense to me. It became
my "bible" of hope as my therapist and I poured through
the concepts of change you presented seeking how I might recover.
Thank you again! It has been my pleasure and miracle meeting you!
I hope my POA enjoyed my strange and continuous love. . . as it
is coming to an end very very soon. Time's up buddy as I'm moving
grateful new client,
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